Perfectionism, a Dirty Pool and Your First Article

by Pool Builders on 03-24-2009 in Articles

The short story below is such a great example of how things aren't always what they appear to be.

A young couple moved into a new neighborhood one summer and while they were talking in the kitchen of their new home the young woman glanced out her window to see the neighbor cleaning their swimming pool.

"That pool sure looks filthy." she said stretching her neck to see a wider view, "They obviously don't know how to keep pools clean. Perhaps I should give them some suggestions before they go swimming in it."

The husband looked on but remained silent. Every time the neighbor man would go out to clean the pool, his wife would make the same comment about giving him a suggestion.

A few weeks later, the woman was pleasantly surprised to finally see a nice clean swimming pool in the neighbors back yard. She said to her husband, "Finally! He's learned how to correctly clean his pool. I wonder who showed him how to get it right?"

Her husband pulled his newspaper down until just his eyes showed over his newspaper and said with a grin, "I got up early this morning and washed the windows." He chuckled and went quietly back to reading his paper.

And so it is with life: What we see depends on the filter of our window that we look through. They are called perceptions. Filters can come from our training, as well as what was exampled to us while growing up. It is the conditioning of our minds and how we see ourselves, and others, through filtered eyes. It can be a great disadvantage and would certainly prevent us from reaching our full potential for success because these tendencies can create moderate to severe perfectionism.

Do you find that you can't complete your first article (or other projects) because it doesn't look right, feel right or sound right? That may be the case looking through your own filter, but it won't look that way through someone else's filter.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself so you will know if your filter needs updating.

1. Have you been told your too hard on yourself or others?
2. Does your brain send negative messages which make you feel like a failure?
3. Do you disallow others to do jobs because you are the only one who can do it right?
4. Do you tend cut yourself down with negative statements until you feel like giving up?
5. Do you hear things like; you'll never measure up? You'll never get it right?

These thoughts did not magically appear on your birthing table. They were placed in your brain by someone else's filter and its time to give them back to the rightful owner. Let them go, say goodbye, see ya! Part of that 'letting go' may also have to come in the form of some forgiveness.

By changing what you think, you can change how you feel, and eventually write articles until your heart is content. It is crucial to your emotional, spiritual, mental and physical well being. If you're a person of faith, pray for clarity of mind in order to hear your inner thoughts. Take as much information as you can about how to uplift your thoughts about yourself and others in order to break the habit of perfectionism. Remind yourself that you are loved and accepted by those around you (friends and family). It's even quite possible that they are waiting for you to feel comfortable enough with yourself, that you can become free from perfectionism and they no longer have to live up to your expectations.

Be good to yourself. You are loved and accepted and can release your inhibitions regarding your articles without fear of what others will think. You maybe met with needing to make a few corrections but tell yourself it's okay and keep moving forward! You CAN DO IT!!

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